Tips for creating a life you love from life coach Pamela Bruner.

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I create my life today

Here's the power behind this - if I didn't create everything in my life, the good and the not-working-for-me, then I don't really have the power to do anything about it. I'm a victim of the forces of others, the whims of fate, the machinations of evil, whatever. I can't take credit for the good things, and not accept responsibility for the rest of it. And as soon as I accept responsibility for all of it, I have power - power to celebrate my victories, to power to change anything I don't like into something I love.

Take another deep breath. Let me give you an example. I travel a great deal, and stay in hotels frequently. I always book non-smoking rooms, and I would call the day of arrival to confirm that my room is non-smoking. One time when I did that, and was assured that my room was non-smoking, I arrived late in the evening, I was informed that only smoking rooms were still available. No amount of persuasion, telling them that I had confirmed this earlier, etc., got me a non-smoking room that night. So I spent the evening uncomfortable in my room, waking up several times in the night, till finally I woke up and said 'I created this'. Now I didn't know how I created that situation - I couldn't point to an action and say 'If I hadn't done this, this wouldn't have happened.' But I took responsibility for where I was. And I fell asleep and slept soundly the rest of the night. In the morning, and over the next few days (from the comfort of my new non-smoking room) I reflected on why that had happened, why I had created that situation.

Having taken responsibility for it gave me a sense of serenity and power that I could do something about it. I realized that I had been living in fear during my travels that my rooms would not be what I wanted, thinking that I had to sweat and worry about whether they would be non-smoking, and thinking that I would have to fight and argue to get what I wanted. And that fear had kept the situation alive for me, until it manifested. It wasn't that I had 'done' anything to get that smoking room, but who I was 'being' was so fearful, and so concerned that I wouldn't get what I wanted, that I created that room as an opportunity to heal that fear. So I released that fear. I know and affirm now that when I travel I am safe, and my accommodations are perfect. And you know what? Since then, there have only been perfect rooms.

Take another deep breath. You don't have to do this. You don't have to accept this idea. Some things in your life may be more challenging to claim then others. Start with a simple one.

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For example, you might: Claim your responsibility in why someone has shown up in your life in a demanding or unpleasant way. What belief are you holding that would have someone like that show up for you? How did you create this? At the very least, when you take your attention off 'them' and focus it on yourself, I guarantee that your anger will lessen, and you'll feel better. Can you look at 'them' and see a teacher, and a valuable lesson? Then, what happens if you affirm that you are surrounded by loving, pleasant people?

If this concept is new, and feels uncomfortable and unfamiliar to you, try it on as a game - the 'Creating Reality' game. This game is not about blame, or making yourself feel bad, it's about giving you a sense of power. Take the good in your life, and claim it! Take anything in your life, and claim it as yours - what happens? How do you feel? Can you feel how powerful you truly are?

Claim your power, your responsibility, and your creative nature, and have some fun!

Pamela Bruner, Certified Life Coach, EFT-ADV
Creating Powerfully
Phone: 888-736-0620
www.CreatingPowerfully.com
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