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I Just Need To...
The words 'I just need to' are some of the most damaging,
disempowering words I hear people use - all the more so because they
seem so harmless! But let's look at what's behind that simple phrase.
Beginning with 'I just' implies that what needs to be done is easily
accomplished, a small task at best. For example:
- 'I just need to organize my files'
- 'I just need to ask for what I want'
- 'I just need to exercise every day'
- 'I just need to do what I need to do, and I'll have the life I want!'
If it were that easy, you'd have done it. And so would everyone else.
Then there is the underlying negative judgment. By implicitly
declaring that a task is simple, and yet not accomplished, you've got
to be either morally deficient or downright lazy, right? Not at all!
Each situation is different, but one thing is always true: it's always
true that you get something out of not having done whatever you 'just
need to' do. There's a payoff in addition to the negative stuff.
Figuring out that payoff can give you tremendous power in shifting
your behavior, and actually getting it done!
You can do this work on your own - lots of people have figured out
their payoffs, and accomplished what they wanted to. And lots of
people are still saying 'I just need to.' It's not bad or wrong to do
this. But the 'I just need to' people aren't living the life that
they could be. Working with a coach can help identify the payoff,
clarify the issues, and create a structure of commitment that
actually, really, concretely has you living your dreams.
Try this on: Anytime you hear yourself saying 'I just need to' try
substituting 'If I choose to, I can'. How does that feel? It's
always a choice. If you don't know what's keeping you from making the
empowering choices, and acting on them, why not find out?
So are you ready?
When you are, call me. I'd love to help you live the life of your
dreams.
Movie recommendation: 'Rudy' starring Sean Astin
This film, based on an amazing true story, centers around Rudy, who at
5'6" and 160 lbs, had a dream of playing football for Notre Dame, one
of the top football colleges in the country. One of the best examples
of 'living your dreams' that I've ever seen!
Pamela Bruner, Certified Life Coach, EFT-ADV
Creating Powerfully
Phone: 888-736-0620
www.CreatingPowerfully.com
Pamela@CreatingPowerfully.com
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